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The Silent Pressure to be Okay When You Really Aren’t In today’s world, there is an unspoken, relentless pressure to 'do it all.' We often feel forced to be everything to everyone—juggling work, family, and a personal life—while attempting to maintain an image of success or simply trying to appear 'okay'. But here’s the truth: this is impossible to sustain 100% of the time. Eventually we will hit a wall. Many of us are moving through life stressed, anxious and longing for a

If you are a racialized person (Black, Indigenous, or a person of color), you have probably had experiences of feeling erased, misunderstood, dismissed, or like you had to explain your reality to be taken seriously. Therapy isn’t immune to this. Many people come into therapy already questioning themselves: “Do I bring up race? Or will that make things awkward?” “Am I overreacting, or is this a normal response to oppression?” “Do I have to code switch with my therapist as w

When people come to therapy, one of the most common questions I hear is: “Why IFS? How is it different from other approaches?” There are many effective therapy models, and each has value. What draws me to Internal Family Systems (IFS) — and why I choose it for much of my work and as an overarching framework — is the compassion and respect it brings to clients’ experiences, the gentle and self-compassionate process, the deep, almost “cellular level” changes it can bring, and

How do we handle this constant barrage of bad news and the emotional roller coaster it brings on, without becoming completely overwhelmed or simply putting blinders on? Nowadays listening to current events can be overwhelming; even a brief exposure can leave us feeling shocked, disbelieving, terrified, saddened and confused. It’s a lot to take in and to take on, in addition to the regular ups and downs of daily life. We may feel the urge to simply put our heads in the sand a